Skip to main content

Mom life


Hello!
     So being pregnant with my 4th child and having a 7 month old at home and working full time I get people asking how I do it. Like it's an option? I just do it. If I didn't do it all then who would? Does anyone have little fairies that I don't know about? Lunches need to be made, homework needs to get done, diapers changed and bottles warmed. If I don't go food shopping or school shopping then my kids would go hungry and naked.

There are times when I don't think I can do it. Especially when this lil guy is out in the world needing me just as much if not more than my other three. If I am at my max with washing, cleaning, bathing, feeding, taking each from place to place and back again now how will I do it? And just like always I will power through. Fueled by caffeine, sense of humor and the love of my children.

That's what it's all about. There will be bad days I'm sure. I will feel like a failure or inadequate. I will cry. Also a side note this pregnancy has me so emotional and it's annoying. I'm the type whatever is thrown at me bring it on and I'll power through unbothered and with a smile. Not lately, I'm an emotional mess and I cry almost everyday. Eww feelings and emotions. But anyways so yes there will be bad days and moments I will doubt myself as a mother. But then there are all those amazing moments too. When my 13 year old still gives his mom a kiss on the cheek, when my daughter says she wants to be a good mom like me, when my littlest (for now) gives me that look like I am the best ,coolest, most awesome person ever and I make everything all better but just holding him. Or when we have those family moments that we are in our own world and getting along and it's just us and some good times. It's all worth it.

I think as mom's we are just so hard on ourselves. I mean we are growing and raising people to function one day as adults which I still struggle with so it can be a bit much sometimes. And whether you are a working mom or stay at home mom, whether you have just one or a tribe of 4 like me, whether you grew your child within you or you found your way through adoption it all comes down to our love for these children  and it isn't easy. There is so much mom shaming and judging when what we should be doing is supporting each other, loving each other and more importantly making each other laugh.

Laughter really is the best medicine. Sometimes you just have to laugh because if not then you just find yourself in a corner or locked in the bathroom crying and eating ores or a whole bag of chips or tub of ice cream mumbling about your failures in between bites. Sometimes you can't take yourself seriously, sometimes you have own up to the fact that you aren't perfect and I'm sorry if you are finding out right now on my blog. But you arent. No mother is. All we can do is our best. And here is another secret your best is more than enough for your kids. Your love is more than enough for your kids. They don't want a perfect mom, they want you.

Take a deep breath it is going to be ok. Your kids are going to be ok. So put on your leggings and put your hair up in a messy bun and work it Mommies of the world.

Until next time,
Stefanie

📷 via Scarymommy.com (that's a mommy that can keep it real and keep you laughing!)

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

My Firstborn

Today marks my oldest child, David's, birthday. Today marks the day 13 years ago, I became a mother. He is who taught me how much love I was capable of feeling. He is the one who made me a mother and started me on this crazy journey into motherhood. It is crazy how one tiny human being can change you in so many ways and so deeply. And it's not just any birthday although every birthday is a special one but he is thirTEEN. Yes a teen. Like really? David is the one we got to experience all the firsts with. He was first born so every milestone was extra new and exciting, new uncharted territory. Including this one. I never thought he would be a teen, I mean logically yes I knew it would happen, but you never picture that little infant or toddler to ever be a teenager. David is definitely showing signs of being a teen. The boy who once just adored his parents is now suddenly embarrassed by us. He refuses to go anywhere with us that there is a slight chance he could see his fri...
Post a Comment
Read more

We're halfway there!

Hello! 20 weeks down, 20 weeks to go! Man this pregnancy is flying by. It seems like yesterday I shockingly saw those two lines just a few months after having Joseph. After quickly doing the math I realized I would be having another baby before my newborn turned 1. We went from a family of 4 and then less than 2 years later we would be a family of 6!! After the shock wore off I realized this would be my life of four kids, two of which are irish twins. If this baby is born less than 2 weeks before my due date they both could be born in 2017. I have embraced the crazy my life has already become. The sleepless nights that come with having a newborn have been rolled into the sleepless nights of restless legs and having to pee all the time. The tiredness of not sleeping is also the tiredness that comes with early pregnancy. If I'm nauseous that's ok because I didn't really have time to each much anyways. My wardrobe didn't change much because I was still wearing matern...
Post a Comment
Read more

A whole 2 hands! 👋👋

Hello! A decade ago I brought a very special girl into this world. Sophia is 10 today!! From the moment she came into this world, she has had her own set of rules and plans for herself. She has brought so many fun and amazing memories into our lives. She keeps me on my toes and humbles me constantly. She is often a mirror of who I was as a child and am as an adult. Isn't that just so annoying when you get upset with your child for acting just like you? She is my mini me from her crazy hair down to her goofy personality. She came into this world a mere 5lbs 12 oz. And she may of been a little peanut, her personality made up for that. She was feisty and had this little attitude that sometimes I forgot how old she was because she acted far older and wiser than her age. So this year is a whole 2 hands old. 2 digits. Where does the time go? There was a time she was just this little baby who was my koala and would be the happiest in my arms. To be honest she such a peanut still...
Post a Comment
Read more